DESIGN AND IMPLEMENTASTION OF AN ONLINE RESOURCES FOR MARRIAGE CRISES RESOLUTION

ABSTRACT

Many married couples experience their relationship changes over time. During the first years of the relationship, they had spent many evenings just talking with each other. They wanted to share joys, hurts, and hearts. There was closeness between the two of them that just made them want to get to know one another more and more. This project is about those in need, it provides information, resources and marriage counseling through an online designed base. It also helps in linking those in need of a lawyer for anything regarding marriage, link to a court, a link to human right in the case of any domestic violence in the marriage.

CHAPTER 1: INTRODUCTION

1.1 Overview

Many married couples experience that their relationship changes over time. During the first years of the relationship, they had spent many evenings just talking with each other. They wanted to share joys, hurts, and hearts. There was closeness between the two of them that just made them want to get to know one another more and more. Both were sure that they had found the soul mate they had been longing for. But as the relationship progresses, the constraints of everyday life seem to take control of their marriage: children, career, friends & relatives, {all very good in themselves, but in the end a burden for the marriage. Suddenly the couple has to realize that their relationship revolves more around such things and people than around each other. The closeness between the two seems to have disappeared and although both spouses realize how much they suffer from that, they have no idea how to deal with the emptiness that has crept into their marriage. It is on this concept that the researcher intends to undertake a study related to profound a solution with designing a platform for online marriage issues.

1.2 Background and Motivation

The family is a fundamental social institution occurring in all societies, although its particular forms differ substantially from place to place. Stark (1987) identifies four primary functions of the family to include the following: sexual relationships, economic cooperation among members, reproduction and, the educational function – socialization of children. Again, the family is defined as the basic unit of the society. In other words, the family provides the bricks for the building of the society. At any given time in human history, a family comes into existence each time a marriage is successfully contracted. This claim is corroborated from the holy teachings account of God’s creation of Adam and Eve whom He accommodated in the ‘Garden of Eden’ and charged with the responsibility of procreating to fill the earth. Marriage is a covenant relationship between male and female spouses. The covenant nature of marriage provides a strong foundation and secure framework for spouses’ commitment to each other. Covenant defines the marital responsibilities – of husband and wife toward nurturing and protecting their marriage. The couple is expected by their covenant to work hard to reach the level of relationship which protects the marriage from both internal and external negative forces (Zhekwo, 2009).

With the arrival of children, the family keeps expanding. This is true within the African context where marriage is seen basically as a process of procreation. A good marriage guarantees a peaceful and joyful atmosphere in the home, which is most suitable for bringing up healthy and happy children. Research has shown that children who grow up in such environments are more likely to excel in school and in all other aspects of life including their own marital life (Okon, 2010).

Experiences over the years have shown that at times a once blissful marital union turns sour. But before the table turned, the couples believed they were soul-mates as indicated in the way they worked together, walking hand-in-hand, exchanging pleasantries. Each partner then was a true friend, a confidant with good sense of humour ever willing to offer a helping hand to the other.

But as the table turns, couple soon realizes they no longer share the closeness feeling rather as strange bed fellows, speaking to each other only when it becomes absolutely necessary and inevitable. At this stage, some couples who are sensitive could start to wonder how they managed to get where the presently are – conflict has set in and of course if not properly handled at this stage may lead to crisis and eventual collapse of the marriage structure.

Every marriage is constantly under the influence of some external and internal pressures, a condition that it is somewhat inevitable that every marital union faces the dynamics of marital crisis. Crises are therefore a common feature in every union or association of two or more persons and marriage is not immune to this. If it is not so, why then do couples fright and argue? Why can’t they just enjoy lasting peace? Didn’t they get married to have a greater life together than in a single (unmarried) state? These are questions on issues that confirm that conflicts in marital unions might not be unusual and abnormal after all. What might be of serious concern would be why such minor misunderstandings that characterize a healthy union of people often snowballs into a conflict point. People will always have differences of opinions and expectations, what we do with these dissimilar viewpoints are what will characterize our lives and marriages. Great marriages are those that have learned how to utilize these variant shades of opinions and views so that they as a couple can grow.

In the first Annual Review of Psychology chapter on marital interaction, O.Leary & Smith (2011) noted that distressed couples emit more negative statements and fewer positive statements and show greater reciprocation of negative behaviors during problem-solving interactions. Indeed, level of negative affect reciprocity is more consistent across different types of situations than is amount of negative or positive affect (Gottman 2011). With regard to behavioral sequences, escalating, negative sequences during conflict are associated with marital distress, and both frequency and sequences of negative behavior are more pronounced in couples where physical aggression is found (e.g. Burman et al 1992, Gottman 1994). In fact, one of the greatest challenges for couples locked into negative exchanges is to find an adaptive way of exiting from such cycles (Weiss & Heyman 2112). This is usually attempted through responses designed to repair the interaction (e.g. meta-communication, .You.re not listening to Me) that are typically delivered with negative affect (e.g. irritation, sadness).

Distressed couples tend to respond to the negative affect, thereby continuing the cycle. This makes their interactions more structured and predictable. In contrast, nondistressed couples appear to be more responsive to the repair attempt and are thereby able to exit from negative exchanges early on. Their interaction sequences appear more random and less predictable (Weiss & Heyman 2012).

1.3 Statement of the problem

In Nigeria today, the rate at which marital couples experience divorce and re-marriage is quite alarming (Dada and Idowu, 2006). Many families have been and some are still seriously at war with themselves simply because of their failure to arrest, manage or resolve conflicting issues between couples or families. Many families are going through a lot of stress and hardships as a result of marital conflicts. The effects on the children, couples themselves and community are devastating, as had been observed by the researcher. This observation had put a burden on the researcher to carry out this study. A problem with marital research is that the construct of marital satisfaction, adjustment, or some other synonym reflective of the quality of the marriage is poorly understood and assessed using omnibus measures consisting of nonequivalent item types. Because indices of marital satisfaction include reported

conflict, it can be argued that linking observed conflict to satisfaction simply shows that spouses behave in the way they say they do. For some applications, the use of omnibus satisfaction measures appears relatively non-problematic. However, increased conceptual clarity may offer empirical advantages. One proposal is to limit marital conflict in a more attractive and advance way for it resolutions which have not been observed where couples can share their differences and can reunite again. This approach need to opened new avenues of research, as may be through an online marriage resolution conflict. This is because some couples may not be able to express their feelings openly due to secrecy but with this idea can be shared efficiently.

Though, attitudes, accessibility, and sentiment override Conceptualizing marital quality in terms of evaluative judgments links it to a broader field of attitude research in which an attitude is viewed as an association between the cognitive representation of an object and a summary evaluation of the object. The strength of this association indexes the degree to which the attitude is accessible and therefore influences information processing about the attitude object, behavior toward it, and so on. Using response latency as a measure of the accessibility of marital quality (evaluative judgments of the partner), this will help to express and show that accessibility moderates the relation between marital quality and attributions and expectations of partner behavior through an resolution process that needed to be shared online. Despite that many couples have no window to share their challenges and result to marriage conflict resolution process, it is in the interest of the researcher to correct or find a lasting way towards creating an online marriage conflict resolution process.

1.4 Aims and Objectives of the Study

In this study the following objectives were addressed:

1. To determine caused/consequences of marital crises in the Nigerian society.
2. To find a platform to which marriage conflict can be resolved.
3. To develop an online platform and strategies for effective management of marital crises and resolution.

1.5 Significance of the Projects

The significance of this project can be highlighted as follows;

1. To provide strategic platform to propagate a resourceful processes and practices towards marriage issues and needs.
2. To develop an online marriage system and information sharing system for solving marriage crisis among couples in the Nigerian society.

• To emphasize the use of online management of marital crises and resolution using ICT globally oriented system.

1. To help promote a sustainable platform that will help couples discuss issues related to marital crisis resolution in Nigeria and help families within respective locations come together.

1.6 Project Risk Assessment

The study project risk assessment of this research projects intends to be applied at the conception of the research idea. This Research projects are unique in that the innovation associated with research inherently involves risk. The risk assessment the research projects is centered primarily on planning and controlling of uncertainty. Research organizations are subject to similar risks to a corporate environment when executing their projects. The Risk assessment to be performed in the research projects is largely focused on specific technical aspects of the project rather than risks that may impact the success of the whole research project. The project report template makes no provision for the reporting of project risks and proposed treatments. A report into research project management at found that only half of projects had a documented project risk assessment completed. It is acknowledged that numerous attempts have been introduced to manage research risks through a range of policies; however those policies may have had negative impacts on achieving research goals.

 

 

 

RISK

Inability to assess and carry out research due to loss of information in the process of accessing hardware/software resources	Be aware of and observe school IT security Procedures Secure Android mobile phone when not in use.
Defunct in Loss of work due to equipment Failure /loss.	Weekly data backup to H drive
Software availability (Unavailability of API’s).	Alternative API’s will be checked for. Software requirements will be identified in good time for possible contentious software
Access to the delivery of hardware component needed for creation of the software.	Hardware requirements will be identified in good time to be able to order them in good time

 

1.7 Scope/Project Organization

The study will focus on investigating the issues that are faced by couples leading to marriage crisis that exist with the family. The researcher intends to establish a platform that will help resolve marriage problems through online resources towards managing marriage crisis and resolution.

With respect to the organization of the study, chapter one of the study will cover the background of the study which will give us an insight on the study, while we describe the literature review in Chapter 2 which consists of the historical view, literature review and summary of the chapter. In Chapter 3 this covers the researcher methodology the researcher intends to use. Chapter 4 shows us the implementation and testing of the work to be used. Finally chapter which covers other areas covered in the remaining the last chapters include discussions, conclusions, and recommendations.

DESIGN AND IMPLEMENTASTION OF AN ONLINE RESOURCES FOR MARRIAGE CRISES RESOLUTION

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